Comment by Bethgayle on 21 Feb 2012 at 1:48 pm

What happens to you when you feel down now? Are you cured? Are you still in therapy? If you are or need therapy again what would be your focus? Do you like yourself? Your book was awesome.

Bethgayle

Dear Bethgayle,

I admit, there have been moments when I felt down, but I try my best to acknowledge where my dark thoughts come from and then do something about those thoughts. If my down thoughts come from my past, I change my thoughts to my present.

Healing from any type of abuse is a life-long journey.  It’s important to stop for a moment and think of where your ill feelings are coming from. That defuses your pain and allows you to move forward.  “Cure” is a strong word that I never use. No, I’m not cured. There is no such thing as cured. It would be impossible for me to think I’m cured. I do my best to move forward and keep abuse free but truthfully…reality makes things difficult at times. For me, staying on the side of reality keeps me focused and well. If I should start to fall back and regress I would most certainly seek help. My focus would most likely be co-dependency and people pleasing.  At this time, I’m proud to say that I love who I am. I hope to always love myself and stay well. It’s also important for me to forgive myself.

Thank you for your kind compliment,

Karen