Comment by Bulldog on 24 Nov 2012 at 12:13 pm

I have tried unsuccessful for ten years to get help for past trauma. Therapy has caused more distress even spiritual ritual abuse. I do not know how to get help because the therapist I have seen since my mom’s death are causing more harm. Could you help?

I have been waiting for fifty years for it to be okay.

Bulldog

Dear Bulldog,

Though this posting is coming far later than you have written, it’s my hope you received my earlier message. I’m sorry you have not found a qualified therapist to help you. I empathize with your concerns, but know that it takes time to build rapport with a therapist. Please give a new therapist a chance to get to know you before losing hope. I personally had a difficult time when I started therapy with Dr. Baer. I once thought of my therapist as a threat and not very helpful. I asked myself many questions: How could he possibly understand what I have experienced? Why would he want to help me? What if he didn’t believe me? Will he quit on me because I was too much too handle? Would he lock me up if I told him I wanted to suicide?

Therapy can be frightening. It scared me half to death, but it was well worth the investment. I healed and you can, too! Please don’t give up. Remember, it’s taken you forty years to get to this point of wanting help. The last ten years may not have brought you a sense of calm, but it’s never too late to receive help. Have faith!

Wishing you all my best as you journey to wellness!

Karen